Whenever we meet someone for the first time, how often do we find ourselves making comparisons? Is she wearing something that prompts our internal voice to say – Gee! Why don’t I look that put together? Or, those shoes do not go with that outfit. Comparison leads to judgment. Judgement is a determination about value. While we think it is about the other person’s value, it is actually about our own. That’s a game that no one wins. To begin to remove judgement, we must first raise our self-awareness. Recognizing the habit of comparing is a great first step. The moment we recognize the behavior that does not serve us – we begin to let it go.
Pepper Landson, CPC, ELI-MP, CWDS is an Executive Coach at Cheval Noir Inc and the co-founder of a new biotech company in Raleigh. Pepper actively supports women in leadership, entrepreneurship, and encourages more women to embrace both. Perpetually curious and persistent by nature, she routinely questions the stories we tell ourselves and loves empowering all people to live a conscious life.